Love + Growth
Will You Be My Valentine?
Check the box “yes” or “no.” Remember these valentine cards, that you saved for that special someone in elementary school? Boy wouldn’t it be nice if we could whittle our love life down to two boxes AND if we could simply check one and go on with our day knowing that that part of our life was dealt with? This all sounds good until you get to the energy behind the intention. It’s all or nothing. You win, or you lose. This energy is rigid, leaving no room for change, growth or differences in perspective.
How exactly does this impact your love life?
Love is one of those receptive energies that requires that you hold it in your energy field BEFORE you get to offer to another. So, my beloved, that means that you must feel loveable before you expect another to love you. Once you have this loving vibration you can naturally extend it to those around you. We love certain people in our life, so we feel we are capable of love and can be confused as to why we still aren’t finding the Romeo to our Juliet.
Love is so powerful and so inclusive that it can flow out of any container or compartment that you try to put it in. For instance, “I am loveable, because I have a good relationship with my wife.” “I must be holding the vibration of love because my children love me.” These are the low-hanging fruits on your tree of life. Love asks you to grab that shovel and start digging down to the root of all that keeps you separate from your fellow human beings. Looking under the proverbial rock When you are ready to see what truly stands between you and love, look to those people that inspire feelings of disdain. These are people that are keeping you in a place of judgement. Judgement is all about focusing on the differences between us. This is a well-travelled path for the Ego. I’m not speaking about the ego in the sense of vanity, but rather in the sense of what makes us human like our name, our opinions, and our sense of entitlement. It begins to get human real quick when we use those differences to keep us separate from the oneness, we all have access to. When we choose thoughts, and take actions that keep us apart, we are moving away from love. By allowing another person’s choices to change who we are or how we do life, we give away our power.
Forgiveness The only way to get our power back is to surrender those thoughts that keep us powerless. As we choose to allow another their thoughts, their opinions, and their choices and LOVE THEM ANYWAY, we move back into our power. We don’t have to love those choices. We are recognizing that most people do what they feel is the best thing to do in each moment. Rarely, are they thinking of us. So, if they are doing things that cause us pain or distress, it has more to do with their inability to move into oneness. They are choosing to stay in the third dimensional reality called life on earth. Making the decision to see past another’s choice is moving into a higher plane of vibrational energy. This doesn’t make us better than they are, it makes us more capable of accepting our differences aligning us with our spirit. This is the part of them we naturally can and do love.
We can forgive their need to be right by attempting to understand why someone would want to make us different or wrong. We choose to love the part of them that feels they must stay safe by holding onto the existence they have spent their entire lives building. Stepping outside of their comfort zone and seeing life from a different vantage point is too risky for some. What if they have to dismantle all they know to be true? What then?
We offer them love for their being between a rock and hard place and choosing to sacrifice us as they seek to maintain the life they have created. We can do this because we understand that love heals all wounds. We can let go of the pain around being wronged, shamed, rejected, betrayed and abandoned. As we love those wounded parts of us, we can love the wounded parts of others.
Swarmi Chaitanaya Keerti “I often say, learn the art of love. What I really mean is: learn the art of removing all that hinders love. It is a negative process. It is like digging a well. You can go on removing layers of earth, stones, rocks and then suddenly there is water. The water was always there as an undercurrent. When you remove all the barriers, the water is available. So, with love. Love is the undercurrent of your being. It is flowing, but there are many rocks, much earth to be removed. That’s what I mean when I say: learn the art of love. It is really not learning love, but un-learning all the ways of un-love.”